my life, my choice

Challenging and difficult, though they may not be what we want to hear, are the words that best describe long distance relationships. Keep in mind however, that the words are challenging and difficult, not impossible. Many people choose to give a long distance relationship a try, with the constant curiosity if it was the right decision to make and if it even stands a chance. The truth is, a long distance relationship has just as much a chance of succeeding as any other relationship!

 

Long Distance Relationships share the same facts as an average relationship. It involves two people who share an interest in each other's lives, care for one another and of course have a love for each other that they hope will only continue to grow. On the other hand, a long distance relationship does have its differences as well. It takes away your ability to see each other on a frequent note, as well as the choice of being intimate whenever you desire, not to mention that there would be major trust required. Being unable to spend time together in a physical presence makes it harder to hang on to, but does not spell out doom for your relationship.

 

 

The first step is to make an agreement of what your expectations are in the relationship and how much of a commitment you are willing to give and receive. If the two of you decide to be monogamous, then it is clear that neither of you will be dating anyone else as long as your romantic relationship exists. Being clear about what you both want is extremely important, especially in a long distance relationship, in order to prevent future misunderstandings and mistakes. Do not feel afraid to tell your partner what you really need and want from him or her, you deserve the chance to speak from your heart and he or she deserves to know the truth and judge whether they can give it to you.

 

 

Trust is a major necessity if you wish to have your relationship from a distance. Without trust and honesty, the relationship is in for danger and unsuccessfulness, just as it would be any other relationship. By accepting the challenge of a long distance relationship, you also accepted the fact that you will have to have the trust and faith that your partner will not be seeing anyone else as promised. Being paranoid and accusing will only grow doubts, insecurity and tension between you and none of those three will help the relationship survive successfully.

 

Keeping each other informed of the friendships you have with other people and the events that take place in your personal life is a great way to keep your relationship alive and healthy; and continues to make your partner a part of your life. It is essential that you receive the same information from your partner as well, so you both feel the same security and satisfaction that you both crave. Be creative with the way you keep in touch, such as calling, e-mailing, faxing and sending cards. Pay attention to how many times a week you are staying in touch as well. If you want your bond to stay strong and loving, you have to hear from one another often, leaving as little room for any of you to start getting paranoid about anything. Although you cannot be romantic towards each other on a physical note, you can still perform romantic acts that will keep the romance department happy. You can do this by sending love letters and poems, having flowers and gifts delivered, or even sending a video of yourself with a loving message. Reminding your partner of how much you think about and love him or her will score high points, making them miss you more with the constant urge to see you.

 

Planning reunions play a big part in keeping your relationship exciting, plus serve you the satisfaction of being able to see and touch each other occasionally. It gives you the opportunity to catch up on each other's life in person and to be able to share physical and intimate activities together, which will fulfill both of your needs and desires. Not re-uniting every once in a while will only damage the relationship you have, so if one of you are not willing to visit the other occasionally, then you may need to question the interest and care your partner has for you and should probably end the relationship and move on. If you and your partner truly want this to work out, then you will both continue to be eager to see each other as often as you can and every time to have the chance to.

 

Setting a limit of how long you will be apart is a wise thing to do if you do not want to end up waiting forever. There will be a day when you and your partner will have to start planning a serious future, which can only happen when you are living in the same area or perhaps even living together, whichever makes you most comfortable. If none of you are willing to agree on a place to settle and start having a relationship where you see each other on a regular basis, then you can pretty much forget about accomplishing anything out of your long distance relationship. If your partner truly loves you and wants to be with you, then they would not want to wait forever to be with you.

 

With the right amount of effort and interest on both parts, a long distance relationship can survive the obstacles it will frequently be challenged with. As long as you both refresh your memories of why you chose to do this in the first place, trust each other, inform one another of your personal lives, keep in touch, and visit, your relationship can turn out to be one of the most successful and happy relationships that ever existed. You both will be secure, happy and satisfied until the day comes when you will re-unite for good and build your wonderful future together.

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昨天，一张张稚嫩的脸被军训的阳光晒得黑黝黑黝的，

但他们在无情的烈日下依然带着耀眼的笑容。

 

今天，这一张张的脸变成熟了，

可在那风雨下他们仍然笑容灿烂。

 

明天，我要记住这一张张可爱的脸，

我相信他们在人生的日晒雨淋过后还会带着同样的笑容回来重聚。

 

在军训中我们一起经历了日晒雨淋，在毕业活动中我们又在风雨中飘摇，可这正是对我们之间友谊的洗涤~

我们之间的友谊是如此天真纯洁，愿法英2friendship forever~！

 

（昨天写了那些我觉得真的不够，因为，俗一句：千言万语尽在不言中！再来一句：我同你，明架啦！）

在大学生活中，发生了很多第一次，也想去做更多第一次~！人生苦短，什么都应该勇于去尝试一下。别让自己后悔！

而这可能是我大学生涯里最后的第一次，我把它献给了商英学院，为它的毕业晚会作出我的第一次舞蹈表演！

在这里要感谢YCC同学，是她拉我进去那个火辣辣的队伍里，谢谢这位负责任的老师的严格教导！（>_<）

这个团队的成员有专业的舞蹈演员，也有业余的舞蹈爱好者，当然有像我这样一窍不通的菜鸟（手脚协调有问题，被冠以“阿僵”的称号，在这又要谢谢紫猪同学，给我一个这么亲切的花名）。

这帮人竟然完成了Tom Cruise（阿汤哥）要完成的MI:Ⅳ,在商英学院的毕业晚会上表演了一个如此精彩的节目——火辣辣（真的很红很火辣哦！！！）

今天终于上班了，坐在大巴上，看着窗外的大雨，心里冒起一种酸酸的感觉，

以前一直想上班，可是到了上班的那天，却砍不断那一串串思念和不舍，对校园，对同学们，对兄弟朋友们，对女朋友……

当我下车踏上了那陌生的土地，那酸的感觉更重了。

这就可能是我以后工作的地方，就是这里，如此的陌生，

原来到了他乡的感觉真的不好受，（眼珠，ycc，OO，你们都很厉害！）

我被带到今晚要睡的地方，我的宿舍，one bed,4 walls(家徒四壁的feel)，

心突然变得跟房间那样，被掏空~！我坐在床上，楞了一会。

出去买了些东西，走在路上，看着山边的乌云，压得紧紧的~

找到经理让了台电脑给我用，让我可以跟同学们联系上了，心里很兴奋！

但是我却好像唐家山的堰塞湖那样突然被打通，找到了发泄的地方，

对着QQ上的文字，我哭了，忍不住哭了，一边打着字，一边哭了。

好久好久没有这种感觉，上一次是我看着家人送完我然后离开大学城的时候。

我其实曾经是个哭包，我是半个用水做的男人，上了高中以后我就很少哭了，

我绝大多数哭是因为感动，对那一刻的感动，无论是现实，还是电视电影上的，

我不认为哭是罪，无论是男人还是女人，哭跟笑一样，也是一种释放的方式而已！

而我以前就是想哭就哭，到了大了就是想哭也尽量忍住，不过心里还是有哭的感觉，

我是男人，我不怕哭！

 

好了，哭完了，泪干了，还是要继续走我们的路，愿大家路上顺风！